Tyler, my 5 year old son, is going through a phase right now and I'm pretty worried about him. He's got some big time anxiety and fear about death and dying. We frequently deal with melt downs usually before bed time, or if he is already upset about some other unrelated reason and I'm not quite sure what to do about it. He brings up my Great Grandma a lot, who died 2 years ago. He cries and cries about missing her. They were actually very close. When he was a baby, my grandma cared for him while I worked, and my great grandma moved in with her when he was little. He kept her so happy, when otherwise she was a little old grumpy 98 year old woman. They really did have a special connection. I've done everything I can think of to help- we make cards, we've visited her grave with flowers, we've looked through pictures. I've tried to help him understand that while she may be gone, she's always here in our hearts, and we have many great memories of her. Well, it usually doesn't end there, he then goes into hysterics about not wanting me or others in our lives to go away, and how he doesn't want to die, etc. I've found the best solution is to find a way to take his mind off of it- but it's obviously only a short term solution, since it returns several times a week.
I'm at a loss trying to help him through it on my own, and I've decided I should probably take him to a professional of some kind who can help him work through his grief. I know it's a long shot, but has any other parent gone through this and know of someone who can help us? Any books you've read? Anything? I'd really appreciate it!